Living in Japan #4 – Sexual Japan

Posted on | November 25, 2009 | 3 Comments |

I’ve struggled to come up with things to write about in my Living in Japan series – mainly because my opinions haven’t really changed and I’ve probably said it all before in some post way back when in the archives…But I thought that I should at least comment on a few of the things about sexual Japan that seem important while I’m here.

So I was on the train the other day and I was patting myself on the back for being able to read a poster advertising some issue of a current affairs magazine. What really drew me to the poster in the first place was the fact that it said “SEX” (in big capital English lettering) in no less than 3 places. THe whole sentence turned out to be – “SEX – why Japanese people are not having enough of it revealed” and below (well, to the right) “I’m too small! I’m too weak! Men’s reasons for their loss of self confidence.”

In truth, Japan is not a very sexual place. I guess its the long working hours, coupled with the fact that to find employment, many couples get split up – with one (usually the husband) working away while the wife stays at home, or has a job nearer the house. That sort of arrangement can’t be good for sexual relations (however limited they might be with a son or daughter in the house). Yet as I have said on this blog time and again, Japan does come up with the most depraved pornography (and volume of it) – per head probably the most in the world. And not only that, but there is evidence of it elsewhere – the frequent fan-made pornography shows, the enormous red light districts bulging with love hotels boasting cut price cosplay outfit rentals, being accosted in the streets of Ikebukuro by a nice-looking lady who wanted me to share her umbrella (I played the “no speekee Japaneese” card”). There’s no doubt about it – at least part of the Japanese populace likes their sex.

I’ve mentioned Enjo kosai (teenage prostitution) before and it’s obvious that it still goes on, with enormous 7-8 storey buildings boasting “Telephone Club” (Place where you can call girls who are up for Enjo) in 3 foot high neon lettering, not an uncommon sight in the Love hotel districts. I don’t have any evidence about Chikan koui (fingering girls in trains), presumably for the horny older men who can’t afford to Enjo kosai. I assume it still goes on, but I’d have to poll Japanese women to find out… So what does can we conclude from this? Obviously there are a lot of frustrated older men separated from their wives around and some younger high school girls who like Prada who seem willing to fill that gap (the other part is probably filled by good old Thai prostitutes).

And there is one more piece of evidence that needs to be put forward. This month, the wife and I decided to spend some of our hard earned yen on going to the Tokyo Fetish Ball (well, it was being held just down the road after all). And needless to say it was a great show, but the one thing that really surprised me was the menbership of the society that sets this ball up every year – half foreigners. I know they want to retain a “varied membership” but aren’t there enough Japanese people into S&M to go round? Or perhaps they’re too scared to come out and admit it? And what of all the foreigners that joined – since there aren’t that many foreigners in Tokyo, the obvious conclusion is that there are a disproportionate amount of foreigners that come to Japan that are into that sort of thing. In which case, either they chose Japan because of its reputation in that sector (more likely) or Japan turns people weird (possible).

I’d like to insert here the random fact that I have not been able to find striped panties anywhere in Tokyo. Well, I have a long time left to look ^^

Conclusions

I’d like to draw all the evidence together and make some sweeping generalisations (or conclusions as I like to call them). First of all, horny men are separated from their (presumably equally horny) wives for the sake of work. Those with money hire prostitutes or find a nice high school girl who will take care of things while they’re away from home and those that don’t get it for free on the crowded commuter trains in the mornings. Meanwhile, the frustrated teenage boys who can’t get any because the girls from their age group are off banging middle aged businessmen turn to pornography resulting in the production of said material rising to the equivalent of 15000 metric tonnes per year. The other less able teenagers find foreigners who have come over to Japan because they heard it was a haven for pornography and sex and hook up with them instead.

And the horny frustrated housewives buy all the striped panties so I can never find them. The End.

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3 Responses to “Living in Japan #4 – Sexual Japan”

Asuka
November 25th, 2009 @ 10:35 am

After living in Japan for almost 3 years, I can back your claims up.
About the horny wives – maybe this is why there are such hi-tech sex toys available with n modes of operation ;-)

During my social activities I have noticed that not many Japanese have social skills – they are framed in ‘things that everybody does and therefore I need to do it the same way’, may it be ??? or dating or anything.
Also, the majority of the male group just doesn’t have the balls to approach females, nonetheless approach foreign females – *many* virgins which didn’t even have the experience of a kiss.

Direct consequence is that females have limited or no experience.
(I’m talking about ‘normal’ people here, that you meet everyday at the uni)
Also when they finally get a bf (which has also no experience) they think that that’s the best they can get until a foreigner comes along and shows how it’s done… :)

The good part of this that you can mold the sex slave you want out of them. The bad part is you have to overcome their fixed mindset and open their eyes, which is sometimes much harder than it looks.
heavens lolipop
November 30th, 2009 @ 7:29 pm

I feel a big bad foreigner attitude coming from you Asuka. Don’t horde all the horny frustrated housewives to yourself now >;D
Ahms
December 3rd, 2009 @ 9:07 am

I haven’t really bought into the ‘lack of sex/experience’ thing being negative. We seem to judge the rest of the world from USA/Hollywood standards. I can say from experience that a lot times it’s the people with the ‘worst’ social skills that are having the babies (reminds me of the ‘Idiocracy’ movie).

Anyways, could part of the “problem” over there be in part of a woman’s choice to be more ‘free’/in control of their lives? I’ve read for example that things like the Takarazuka Revue have legions of female fans since they can see an ‘escape’ from reality through it (the confines of gender).

Also, maybe folks over there satisfy their libido with all the manga and don’t see a need for anything more lol.